Always.......Never

a few days ago I was wondering where my rhythm and routine and 'home' is ....I spent time with others who have others who have partners and do things together as couples, or independently of one another - although, when the end of the day arrives, they get to share the days events in conversation and companionship

when you live alone, that does not happen. no matter how exciting or boring the day has been - there is aloneness when darkness falls

I have been thinking about all of this - mulling it over in my mind, and when I remember the conversations I have had with them, I noticed that two words came up regularly

Always......


Never.....



We always eat breakfast together. 

We have never eaten in a restaurant on Boxing Day. 

I have never worn navy blue since I was in school 50 years ago

I always ....

We always....

I never....

We never.....


such absolutes. 

I am not sure that I am capable of such absolutes. some years ago during a leadership course, I had to complete the sentence that began with ....I Will Never .......

I was stumped. it took some thinking about. obviously I was in the mindset of the leadership course - I was not thinking of things like - I will never eat hedgehog, or something similar


now I am wondering if I can live a life that has such strict guidelines ...I have always tended towards a little more latitude than I never or I always..


I Always enjoy being able to try some new things and I Never feel that I have to do things just because others are doing it ....

this life is full of interesting options ..



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