Take the step - and fly!

There is something to be said about stepping out of the circle!

Most of us spend (waste) a lot of time staying in a game that others need us to play in order for themselves to feel safe and secure.

 A colleague has shared with me that she finds it very difficult to work with her office mate, as they have differing opinions and work ethics. These are two ladies who have lived in each others pockets for so many years ( they say that misery loves company ) and both are living in difficult circumstances. I too had been in a similar position, but I chose to leave my unhappy situation and create a new life for myself. Whenever they complained about their lives, I would ask them why they stayed in their ruts - it is for the money and security, they said. Well, years have passed and  there is little or no money. So again I ask why they stay - because there is nowhere to go now, they say, as there is no longer any money.....! They are older, not able to make it on their own, and so they are settling for a life of mediocrity and anger at feeling trapped.

Today's complaint concerned the uncomfortable silences that happen when they are not prepared to work together in harmony - and they sit just a few inches from each other. No doubt this is a stressful situation. I reminded her that no-one, save the boss and the customers, had spoken to me for a year. The lady in question disagreed - she recalls that it was only six months! Six months of running to church every Sunday, extolling the virtues of being a good Christian. Six months of seemingly being a good hearted, upright citizen!  Six months of ignoring a fellow being within metres of her desk every single day! Six months, she says - as if that makes a difference! It is OK to ignore a person for six months. Evidently a year would be out of the question! The logic behind it escapes me.

I stepped out of the circle. I chose a new life. And in this new life, I choose to surround myself with positivity. It has been so interesting to watch these women over the years, becoming more and more disenchanted with their lives. It is a reminder for me to count my blessings - of which there are many. Yes, I have to pay for a handyman to do the things that their husbands do as a matter of course. Yes, I have to attend functions alone. Yes, I have to drive myself wherever I need to be. Yes, I have to get my own painkillers when I have a headache in the middle of the night. Yes, I have to remove all manner of creepy crawlies that enter my home.

But I never go to work angry that my partner has done, or has not done something. I know what the atmosphere in my home will be all day everyday. I never have to deal with abusive behaviour in the place that is my sanctuary and refuge from the world outside. Blessings beyond measure. And I chose that for myself. I chose peace and harmony. I chose that. For me. Because I am worth it. I am worthy. Of the best life has to offer.

Tomorrow, I shall go to work happy. I will hop out of bed, have a fabulous workout at gym, arrive at work in a good mood.

How will they feel tomorrow?

I wonder.